I’m Breaking Up with a People Pleaser.
Breakups have always somehow managed to make every newspaper, grocery magazine stand, and ridiculous news broadcasts.
But. I see the hype— the thrill. It’s invigorating to have such control and to be set free from hard things. Not all breakups have foundations to do so, but the one I’m doing today— it’s been needing to come for a long time.
I’m throwing a load of laundry in this morning with rage I’ve never felt. I’m done.
Finished.
I turned around into the mirror and pointed at the reflection. I was breaking up with my people-pleasing self. I had wasted so much time trying to be someone I was not.
I wanted to be the same woman in the Sunday church pew that I was in the query meeting for a book. I wanted to be the same girl I was on mom’s night out as I was in the carpool line.
So, I broke up with my people-pleasing self. Set her free. And it won’t make newspaper stands or giant headlines— but it will affect me and my family and everyone I run into for the rest of my life. I’m no longer shackled in the relationship of people pleasing— I’m free to love and serve deeply without a second thought.
And just to make sure this was not some piped-up dream, I took it to the Good Book and found that people-pleasing is indeed lined up in this breakup song!
Before the self-talk hits your nerves this morning, remember people pleasing is not part of your purpose.
The motive of your heart matters. Positioning for a disguised selfish ambition or loving others with Christ’s love will determine if you make REAL progress today.
Your work matters today– so do it with purpose. Not this people-pleasing self— go ahead and break up with her. I dare you.
John 15:5 (New International Version)
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me, you can do nothing.
Simply Blooming Grace 